This book was amazing!!! Jacob is a wonderful writer and I laughed and cried right along with them. I read this while I listened to the audiobook and that was incredible, as it's narrated by Jacob. 10/10 would recommend!

A memoir/coming-of-age story from a non-binary author that was assigned male at birth but from their earliest memories knew that wasn't accurate. There are chapters covering their futile attempts to fit in at multiple stages of young life, with a lot of focus on high school, college, and being part of a relatively liberal but still typically American suburban Christian church. I loved it, and finished the whole thing in a few days. It's a great read if you or someone in your life has a gender identity that doesn't fit with the world around them, if a bit more in the venting category than having The Answer to make it all work. Otherwise, chances are that this won't necessarily resonate as much with you if you didn't share something with Tobia that I do: we both went to college at Duke, and less than ten years apart. Prime example: one of the many strange intricacies of being a Duke student is that as a graduating senior you can apply to be a (non-voting and non-really mattering, but still) member of the Board of Trustees. One undergrad and one grad student per year get to do this, with finalists chosen by a student vote. I applied back in 2005, and it was a super interesting if all-consuming process. Tobia got much closer than I ever did, so I relished their stories of the interviewing and campaigning processes, and especially what that was like for an out queer candidate. (read less)

A memoir/coming-of-age story from a non-binary author that was assigned male at birth but from their earliest memories knew that wasn't accurate. There are chapters covering their futile attempts to fit in at multiple stages of young life, with a lot of focus on high school, college, and being part of a relatively liberal but still typically American suburban Christian church. I loved (read more)